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‘All’s fair in Love and War’…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The fact of the matter is that, (speaking on the condition of anonymity) disgruntled lovers find themselves harboring so much disdain from the lack of compassion or understanding from previous experiences that it becomes almost impossible to move on…This page will identify some of the reasoning,(well, there really isn’t any logical platform here, so let’s use reasoning temporarily for lack of a better term) behind the ashtray chuck to the head or the brilliance of the destruction of their Ibanez acoustic………

  • It is possible to be too good to be true: Some have held on to all the terrible things that have ever happened to them with their ex’s and not only is this unhealthy but the next prospect has absolutely no chance at living up to the unrealistic expectations set after such an ugly compromise or in some cases many compromises.
  1. If this particular behavior begins to develop within the course of any relationship, insecurities will surface like a hungry shark. Overlooking the warning signs could realistically lead to someone getting hurt. Not just emotionally, might I add…..
  2. Past physical abuse leads to the expectation of future physical abuse. Fact of the matter is that most of us are NOT abusive and any attempt to convince a predisposed  partner will generally be dismissed as still suspect.
  3. When someone is perched atop some conviction that involves the docking of a prior’s houseboat in their harbor, this should tell you that you are the rebound and are susceptable to being engaged at some point with some currently irrelevent controversy.

Although you may have inclinations as to the whereabouts of a potential mate’s state of mind. Follow your instincts! Not all of us have the best intentions in mind when surfing for significant others…Next up….Repercussions and consequences. 

Repercussions and Consequences: Ideally, we would all love to find that ‘perfect’ someone. The problem with this is that NO ONE is perfect and when our expectations become too high sometimes we can delude ourselves. Part of the consequencial portion of this scenario is that you are setting yourself up for disappointment and an unhealthy reality. Also, it is never safe to bring the ex into the arena of trying to build a new relationship. The problems that the 2 of you encountered may never even develop within this current venture and well, you’re not being fair to yourself. I’ll discuss a few potentials…….

The Revenge Factor: This is a dish best served cold and there is a plethora of Sherlock Holmes mysteries and courtroom dramas to affirm the dangers of ‘getting a lil payback’! If your lover cheats on you what logic could ever compell you to answer with cheating on them? I thought this was about love and if they are promiscuous, they don’t love you! End the fallacy and walk away, regroup and try again later. Tid bit of advice….Not everyone can mentally handle being cheated on and Domestic Violence is scary as hell along with being a prosecutable offense. 

The Project: People are just that folks……people! None of us have a construction sign on our forehead and projects only stem from one of 2 things. Either you’ve left something behind in a previous romance and feel the need to possess it again or your ideals have become seperate from reality. We are all very different and each of us deserves the opportunity to live among the natives. I am NOT him! You are NOT her!

Obsession of the 3rd Kind: Generally, possessiveness can be spotted somewhere right within the first few weeks of entering into a relationship. This sort of behavior brings to mind the movie ‘Fatal Attraction’. Just because someone APPEARS to be of sound mind doesn’t mean that they are! Not much can become of this type of thing aside from obtaining a restraining order and running for your life!

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